Long Distance Relationship
The following is a list of a few lessons I have learned over the years about long distance relationships. As someone who has been in a long distance relationship for about two and a half years, I have picked up on some tips to help you out.
1. It is hard. Like real hard. But worth it. Love has no clue how far away a person is, and sometimes the people we love are far away. However, your brain does. It is not impossible and you can do it. But be aware of the difficulties of the situation.
2. It does get better. You get used to it and you get stronger and grow as a couple.
3. Be your own person. When Forrest moved away, I realized that our friends and everything in my life included him. So I quickly had to find my own life and be my own person. Once I had done that, I was able to enjoy my time away from Forrest.
4. You will always miss them. Especially on Sunday nights. Don't believe me? Test it. Anyway, my life is incredibly busy and truthfully there are days when I don't even have time to think about Forrest, but I always at the end of the day wish I was with him. That never goes away. Truthfully, I don't think you would want it to. That would be indicative of a separate issue entirely.
5. Have a triangle relationship. A what you are asking? A relationship where you both are seeking after Christ, is a strong relationship. How does this relate to a triangle you ask? Well image that Christ is at the top of the triangle and you are on the left side and they are on the right. If you are both moving towards Christ, you also move towards each other. Look at that. Once again, Jesus is so awesome.
6. Decide. If you are in a relationship, you need to either see yourself marrying that person, or breakup. Sorry thats a little harsh, but trust me when I say, if you don't see yourself marrying that person, it is not worth it at all.
7. Trust them. In an LDR, without trust there is no relationship. Simple as that. Sometimes it is hard but believe me if something is going wrong, you will figure it out. Also, something that I struggle with is looking for the best in him. We made a collective decision that we were always going to think the best of each other. ALWAYS. That means during hard times and good times. Believe me it will save you a lot of time.
8. COMMUNICATE. I literally yelled that at you. Like communication is key in normal relationships, but absolutely essential in LDRs. Sometimes the only communication and the expression of love during the day is a simple text. Believe me, good communication can go a long way and make or break your relationship.
9. Have patience. He is a guy. He has no earthly clue why you are upset, or what is going on. Remember that if he loves Jesus and y'all have a triangle relationship, he most likely had no intention of hurting you or upsetting you. In fact, he wants to avoid this at all costs. However, if he does have intention, you should discuss that with him. That is a different problem entirely.
10. Pray. Pray in general. Pray for him. Pray for guidance. Pray that the Lord comes are heals your loneliness, because He will. Pray for y'all's relationship. Don't be discouraged, and be strong in the Lord. This is the most important part.
1. It is hard. Like real hard. But worth it. Love has no clue how far away a person is, and sometimes the people we love are far away. However, your brain does. It is not impossible and you can do it. But be aware of the difficulties of the situation.
2. It does get better. You get used to it and you get stronger and grow as a couple.
3. Be your own person. When Forrest moved away, I realized that our friends and everything in my life included him. So I quickly had to find my own life and be my own person. Once I had done that, I was able to enjoy my time away from Forrest.
4. You will always miss them. Especially on Sunday nights. Don't believe me? Test it. Anyway, my life is incredibly busy and truthfully there are days when I don't even have time to think about Forrest, but I always at the end of the day wish I was with him. That never goes away. Truthfully, I don't think you would want it to. That would be indicative of a separate issue entirely.
5. Have a triangle relationship. A what you are asking? A relationship where you both are seeking after Christ, is a strong relationship. How does this relate to a triangle you ask? Well image that Christ is at the top of the triangle and you are on the left side and they are on the right. If you are both moving towards Christ, you also move towards each other. Look at that. Once again, Jesus is so awesome.
6. Decide. If you are in a relationship, you need to either see yourself marrying that person, or breakup. Sorry thats a little harsh, but trust me when I say, if you don't see yourself marrying that person, it is not worth it at all.
7. Trust them. In an LDR, without trust there is no relationship. Simple as that. Sometimes it is hard but believe me if something is going wrong, you will figure it out. Also, something that I struggle with is looking for the best in him. We made a collective decision that we were always going to think the best of each other. ALWAYS. That means during hard times and good times. Believe me it will save you a lot of time.
8. COMMUNICATE. I literally yelled that at you. Like communication is key in normal relationships, but absolutely essential in LDRs. Sometimes the only communication and the expression of love during the day is a simple text. Believe me, good communication can go a long way and make or break your relationship.
9. Have patience. He is a guy. He has no earthly clue why you are upset, or what is going on. Remember that if he loves Jesus and y'all have a triangle relationship, he most likely had no intention of hurting you or upsetting you. In fact, he wants to avoid this at all costs. However, if he does have intention, you should discuss that with him. That is a different problem entirely.
10. Pray. Pray in general. Pray for him. Pray for guidance. Pray that the Lord comes are heals your loneliness, because He will. Pray for y'all's relationship. Don't be discouraged, and be strong in the Lord. This is the most important part.
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